Some may say my ‘fascination’ with death and dying is verging on the morbid. Weird maybe? I’ve frequently written about it over the years. Is it related to my nursing and midwifery experiences? Maybe. I’ve been exposed to death more than most of my family and friends. With all that’s happing around the world currently, I’m hazarding a guess this topic is becoming ‘hotter’?
I’ve been following Keith and Olivier who run ‘The Death Hangout’, since their inception. Keith and I used to be on a coaching group together and I love his style of seeing the world. The Death Hangout’s regular podcasts may be lengthy, at one hour per episode, but they’re always a worthwhile watch.
The Illusion of Safety
Their most recent Podcast, the “Illusion of Safety”, was published on YouTube on 10th April. I gave myself the gift of time to watch it this morning and heard some very pertinent points …
” …we talk with Lyla about her work with the Ernest Becker Foundation, how maybe our brain isn’t actually built to be able to deal with the knowledge of our own mortality, and how we can actually use our knowledge and self-awareness of our own death in ways that are adaptive, rather than maladaptive, in building a better life for all.”Illusion of Safety – The Death Hangout
I often wonder if our blog resonates with people. Maybe some folks find it offensive when I talk about the choices Barry and I have made to get us to the place where we’re ‘happily living’ on the Inland Waterways of UK? Our life is far from perfect, but during this Coronavirus lockdown period, it’s incredibly idyllic in the British countryside. I guess my view is it’s not death I’m intrigued and fascinated by, it’s LIVING!
We don’t subscribe to the notion that we’ll go to a ‘better place’ after we die. We’re not taking a chance on that one. Our focus is on living the best life we can right now. Today. Simply. No need for material goods, a big house, a flash car, the latest gadget. We own our boat, we have no debts and little outgoings. Are we lucky? Partly yes, but also we’ve made wise choices over a long period that work for us?
Which Level Are You On?
The lovely Lyla Rothschild, interviewed in this most recent episode, attributes some of the differences in coping mechanisms to where people find themselves on ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs‘. A startling and thought-provoking point. If, when this all kicked off, you were barely managing to survive on the first rung, of having food, warmth, security and shelter, then this situation is far more likely to be increasing your struggles than those sitting smugly further up. Like us I guess? We’re not rich monetarily by western standards, but in having our needs met we’re wealthy beyond measure – right at the peak.
Where would you place yourself:
Can you even slightly comprehend what it would be like to be homeless, having to live on the streets, at the moment – or ever? Thank goodness for Crisis who are stepping up even more than usual. There may be a good few people who will find themselves in a similar situation soon which will be extremely humbling and very scary.
Watching Spring Develop ‘Live’
It truly is one of the blessings of living on a narrowboat, watching the emergence of spring. The vibrant fresh green on the trees and hedgerows nearby is stunning. Below you’ll find two views from our side hatch. The first one was snapped on 29th March; the second today, just over two weeks later. WOW!
How the world changes in such a short space of time …
A Continuing Boat Makeover
Barry’s continuing his boat makeover, busying himself every day with something! I can honestly say neither of us knows the meaning of the word ‘bored’. Not that we’re constantly ‘doing’, we’re perfectly fine ‘being’ too and sitting quietly. It’s just that generally because of mooring restrictions and travelling by boat or to the grandchildren, fitting in DIY is a challenge.
His current project is our bathroom. Which isn’t technically a bath-room sadly, more a compact-shower-and-toilet-and-sink room. His mission is to tart it up a bit – painting the far wall and shower surround an off-white colour. Stage two is sanding the wood. Stage one occurred a few days ago before the back cabin table making; getting everything off the walls and preparing himself mentally I think …
Prosperity Comes in Many Forms
We’re happy to report another day of ‘no symptoms’ to the COVID-19 Symptom Tracker, and hope you can say the same.